1. Overgiving leads to devaluation of value: When one person is excessively good to another, it may make the other person feel that this kind of goodness is taken for granted, thereby reducing the other person's appreciation for this goodness. Excessive effort may make the other person feel stressed, even constrained, leading to feelings of avoidance or indifference.
2. Lack of balance and reciprocity: Healthy relationships are built on mutual understanding and respect. If only one party continues to give without receiving corresponding feedback or understanding, this imbalance can lead to the giver feeling lost and ignored. The other party may feel guilty for not making corresponding efforts, and choose to avoid such emotional entanglements, manifested as not caring.
3. Individual differences and mismatched needs: Different people have different ways of expressing and accepting emotions. Some people may be more inclined towards independence and autonomy, and may feel uncomfortable with excessive care and attention. If the giver does not truly understand and meet the other person's needs, even if they try hard, they may not be able to make the other person feel genuine care and love, leading to the illusion of indifference.