The difference between self love and unrequited love mainly lies in the following aspects:
1. Emotional state and interaction: Self indulgence: refers to one party developing a favorable impression of the other, but the other party does not have the same feelings. In this situation, the self interested party may misunderstand the other party's words and actions, mistakenly thinking that the other party also has a good impression of them, when in fact the other party may only be friendly or polite. In interaction, the self interested party often unilaterally increases contact and effort with the other party, but does not receive a corresponding response from the other party. Bi directional unrequited love: refers to two people having a good impression of each other, but neither has expressed it clearly. In this situation, both parties will frequently think of each other, pay attention to each other's lives and preferences, and show care and concern for each other in the interaction. The interaction between both parties is bidirectional and carries a certain level of expectation and tension.
2. Psychological feelings and behavioral manifestations: Self indulgence: Due to the one-sided emotional involvement of one party, self indulgence often leads to anxiety, unease, and even pain. They may overinterpret the other person's words and actions, misinterpreting their friendly behavior as a favorable impression of themselves, and constantly give and pursue, even in the face of the other person's rejection or indifference. Bi directional unrequited love: Although neither party has expressed their feelings clearly, the tacit understanding and attention between them will make them feel warm and happy. They silently hope in their hearts that the other person will discover their feelings and bravely express them at the appropriate time. During the process of waiting and anticipation, they may feel nervous and uneasy, but they may also feel happy and satisfied with every small gesture of the other party.
3. Results and Effects: Self indulgence: Due to the one-sided emotional investment, it is often difficult to receive a response and recognition from the other party. In the long run, it may lead individuals who are overly concerned to fall into a state of self doubt, and even affect their mental health and interpersonal relationships. Meanwhile, excessive pursuit and effort may also bring pressure and distress to the other party. Bi directional unrequited love: If both parties can bravely express their feelings and receive a response from each other in the end, they will have a wonderful relationship. Even if both parties do not eventually come together, this experience will become a beautiful memory and valuable experience in their hearts. Moreover, due to the mutual affection, attention, and support between both parties, their friendship will become deeper and stronger.