Attachment types are mainly divided into the following four types:
1. Secure attachment: Characteristics: Low avoidance of intimacy and low anxiety about being abandoned, not worried about being abandoned or afraid of intimacy, able to rely moderately and give space to the other person, believe in oneself and others. Performance: In intimate relationships, this type of person is able to respond to the other person in a more appropriate way, neither overly dependent nor too distant, demonstrating high emotional stability and a sense of security.
2. Anxious attachment: Characteristics: Low avoidance of intimacy, high anxiety about being abandoned, extreme desire for intimate relationships, and extreme fear of being abandoned. Strong desire to rely on others and be relied upon, but often do not believe in oneself, feel inferior, deny oneself, but trust others. Performance: In intimate relationships, these individuals may exhibit excessive dependence and clinginess, requiring constant confirmation of the other person's love and attention, and are prone to anxiety and unease due to minor changes in the other person.
3. Avoidant attachment: Characteristics: high avoidance of intimacy, low anxiety about being abandoned, not worried about being abandoned but afraid of intimate relationships, unwilling to trust and rely on others, also afraid of being dependent, believing in oneself but not others. Performance: In intimate relationships, these individuals may appear indifferent and distant, making it difficult to establish deep emotional connections. They often avoid overly intimate contact with the other person to maintain their independence and sense of space.
4. Chaotic attachment: Characteristics: high avoidance of intimacy and high anxiety about being abandoned, longing for love but also avoiding it, wavering between longing and avoidance, afraid of relying on others and afraid of being dependent on others. Performance: In intimate relationships, the behavior of such individuals is often contradictory and irregular, sometimes enthusiastic and sometimes cold, difficult to predict and grasp, and may cause great distress and anxiety to their partners.
The above four attachment types are classified based on an individual's level of avoidance and anxiety in intimate relationships, and each type has its unique characteristics and manifestations. Understanding these attachment types helps us better understand our own and others' behavioral patterns in intimate relationships, thereby establishing healthier and more stable intimate relationships.