1. Stay calm and self reflect: Try to maintain emotional stability and avoid excessive entanglement or blame. Reflect on the problems in the marital relationship and honestly evaluate whether there are areas that need improvement. Try to calm your mood through diary entries, meditation, and other methods to prepare for possible conversations.
2. Seeking third-party assistance: Marriage counselors: Seeking professional marriage counselors to intervene, who can provide neutral perspectives and guidance, help both parties open up communication channels, understand each other's true feelings and needs. Family and friends: Choose trusted and rational family and friends, share your troubles, and ask them to communicate with your partner in a gentle way to understand the real reasons why he insists on divorce, while avoiding exacerbating conflicts.
3. Prepare communication strategy: Clarify communication purpose: Before attempting to communicate, clarify your goals, such as understanding the reasons for the other party's divorce, exploring the possibility of reconciliation, or negotiating follow-up matters. Choose the appropriate time and location: Ensure a quiet and comfortable communication environment, and avoid engaging in activities during moments of emotional excitement or tension. Listening first, expression second: In conversations, listen more to the other person's thoughts and feelings, avoiding interruptions or immediate rebuttals. When expressing oneself, use the "I" statement to reduce the sense of blame and express one's true emotions and needs. Set boundaries: If communication becomes too intense or ineffective, learn to pause in a timely manner to protect your emotional safety.
Through the above steps, even when facing the dilemma of refusing communication, one can handle divorce issues in a more mature and rational way, and strive for a result that is acceptable to both parties.