1. Communication understanding: Try to have an open and sincere communication with her, clearly express your opinions on certain behaviors or viewpoints of her, and ask for her thoughts and feelings. Understand her position and background, and see if there are any misunderstandings or areas that can be improved together.
2. Set boundaries: On the basis of respecting each other, clarify the boundaries and expectations between you. For unacceptable behaviors, such as those with excessive temper or inconsistent values, you can calmly express your concerns and discuss together how to adjust to ensure that both parties feel respected and comfortable.
3. Seek professional help: If the effectiveness of communication and setting boundaries is limited and the problem continues to affect your relationship, you may consider seeking help from a marriage counselor or psychologist. Professionals can provide neutral perspectives and suggestions to help you find more effective solutions, promote mutual understanding and growth.