1. Examine the emotional roots: Clarify why you can't help but want to find an ex partner. Is it due to unresolved emotional entanglements, a sense of dependence when feeling lonely, or is it due to habit? Understanding these can help you gain a clearer understanding of your true needs.
2. Establish healthy alternative activities: seek and cultivate new hobbies or social circles, shift attention from the past to more meaningful things. For example, joining a sports club, learning new skills, participating in volunteer activities, etc., can all help you enrich your life and reduce longing for your exes.
3. Actively face the past and plan for the future: acknowledge the fact that the relationship with the ex has ended, learn to accept and let go. At the same time, developing personal growth plans and goals, whether for career development or personal improvement, can help you look forward and reduce the urge to look back. You can also consider seeking the help of a psychological counselor to obtain more professional support and guidance.