The practice of playing hard and controlling can be summarized as follows:
1. Maintain mystery and distance: When interacting with others, maintain a certain sense of mystery and do not expose yourself prematurely. Maintain a moderate distance to make the other person feel unapproachable, thereby stimulating their curiosity and desire for pursuit.
2. Moderate Refusal and Guidance: When the other party makes certain requests or invitations, don't always immediately agree. You can refuse or make conditions appropriately to make the other party feel your independence and principle. By guiding the other person's behavior and emotions, make them more proactive in investing emotions and energy.
3. Create opportunities and surprises: At the right time, proactively create some opportunities to make the other person feel your care and concern. Occasionally give the other person some surprises, such as sudden dates, small gifts, etc., to make them feel your sincerity and romance.
Through the above three points, you can effectively use the strategy of playing hard and easy, making the other party feel challenged and happy in the process of pursuing you, and thus cherish and value you more. But playing back and forth is not an unprincipled or bottomless means. When using it, it is necessary to ensure that the behavior and purpose are legitimate, and cannot harm the interests of others or violate morality.