1. Understanding the meaning: He may be pointing out your irrational behavior or disregard for others' feelings, sometimes manifested as sticking to one's own opinions, fluctuating emotions, or being too self-centered.
2. Reflect on oneself: Check whether one's words and actions are indeed too arbitrary, such as not fully considering others' opinions when making decisions, or lacking patience and tolerance in communication.
3. Positive communication: If you feel misunderstood, you can calmly express your thoughts and feelings, while listening to the other person's perspective and seeking consensus. If it is a personal problem, you can express your willingness to improve and discuss together how to balance personal needs and harmonious relationships.